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Break Up Tips
By sheila | March 19, 2008
Breaking up is hard to do. This is true no matter what your age is, or how long the relationship lasted. The reasons for breaking up are as varied as each relationship, but it is possible to move on from a breakup and go on living.
Step 1:
Have no visual or vocal contact with the other person. This may be hard if you are in the same work place, or have children together, but make this a top priority. Unless you absolutely have to have contact, don’t.
Step 2:
Stop talking about your ex. In order to move on after a breakup, you have to stop thinking about them, but that isn’t a possibility for a long time. Help yourself by keeping conversations geared toward other things.
Step 3:
Give yourself credit for trying. No one is perfect, and that means both of you had to add to the reasons for the breakup. The last thing you need to do is beat yourself up over what you did wrong.
Step 4:
Picture the day when you are completely over them. Move on after a breakup by using the power of your brain to speed the process. It is like picturing the perfect golf swing, picture it and it will come.
Step 5:
Lean on your friends. They are there for you no matter what, and lean on them to help you clear your head. This does not mean dump on them about the relationship, it just means that you should continue living and having fun.
Step 6:
Learn from the life lesson. There will be a lot of time spent thinking about different aspects of the relationship, either good or bad, and the best thing to do is to use them both to grow as a person and as a partner.
Step 7:
Treat yourself. Help yourself by getting a new outfit, haircut or make-over. The old saying is true, you feel better when you look great. It is also a wonderful spring board to getting back in the dating pool.